The modern man or woman has built his/her life around the challenging workplace. And let’s face it, our lives are not driven by the ideal personal life goals. Instead, we enjoy the fruits of materialistic pleasures, which are fulfilled by a high paying job or a stressful business plan. And in no time our work schedules engulf our life.
Since most part of our day is spent at the workplace, we end up thinking about issues at work even while we are ‘off duty’. Many others struggle with performance anxiety that may take any form– worrying about promotion, meeting targets and deadlines, rising up to the expectations of the boss, and much more. I remember my first job as a writer…boy… I was all over the place.
I remember being so anxious about performing well that I would most often be in tears.
Not to mention, my boss yelled at me several times and I lost a part of myself each time, wanting to bury my face away somewhere. But now in retrospect, I laugh at that version of me.
Here are some ways for the newbies at work or even the oldies who find it hard to tackle the drama and trauma that arises at the workplace:
When You Screw up
We often find ourselves in a situation when the execution of a task gets delayed, we feel nervous to talk to the boss or feel unprepared even after preparing well for something. Here we have to intervene and say, ta-da, it is okay! We all, including the boss or the hot co-worker you are crushing over, we all have these moments. So, what do we do? Take a second! Just a say, ‘Just a moment’ and gather yourself to get back to what you are doing.
If there is a presentation that is to be decisive and you are not feeling exactly up to it, just take a while to start, be casual and funny about it unto yourself– make fun self-assertions like ‘hah, guess my laptop is in a mood to act up on a work today’. The idea is to keep it light.
When you are in a Rut
Then second situation is where we are getting a specific procedure, act or a calculation repeatedly wrong or are missing it altogether. Once again, it is important to know that even this is okay. It is surely not the end of the world. Our mind might take time to wrap around something. During the off hours, simply go over in mind the steps that may be going wrong and the procedure to correct them. Practice as much as you can, to avoid the same error. Visualization is the key here. Running the whole process in your mind and completing it successfully, this is the way to perfect procedures.
We can be slow learners at times and all we need is to think big and practice the points we lack in. Personal effort can go a long way.
When You are a perfectionist
The irony of being a perfectionist is, you are anxious about your image too much. To add to the whole drama, perfection is a subjective term. Therefore, no matter how hard we try, according to someone else’s perspective we may have done a better job. It is ideal to live the perfection alone and just try to involve the best of your ability at the given moment. A presentation can go wrong, there could be little errors, one might fumble or not be appreciated. Yet all this contributes to our learning curve.
Perfection is a distorted desire, we reckon ‘your best attempt’.
Remember in order to climb up the ladder, we will fall, stumble and get imbalanced, but failure does not strike us till we are ready to try again & again and ultimately succeed.