In the fast-paced world, most of us prefer things fast-paced– be it a quick exchange of emotions and intimacy or short and crisp conversations. Delays usually dampen interest in any situation. Nevertheless, every intense experience in life calls for an investment of both time and energy. Further, clarity is the essence of any healthy relationship, be it mother-daughter, boss-employee, husband-wife. There are certain time-tested aspects which when taken care of, they help build fulfilling relationships.
Does the other person value your time, your presence or suggestions? Or are you being taken for granted for 80% of the things?
As a spouse, employee, friend or sibling, you find you are always walked upon, it is time to walk out. Respecting the other person is the base of any thriving relation. When we say acknowledgement, we mean respect and appreciation from the other person. More often that not people live in a comfortable setup not paying much attention to the value it may or may not be adding to their lives.
One of the most basic and obvious essence is often the most easily overlooked one. Just as salt is important for food to taste good, honesty is important in any relationship, but many-a-times we forget to add salt and there goes the dish down the drain. Everyone in a relationship who wishes to maintain in a healthy relationship should be committed towards spilling the truth out. The only lie allowed is, when your wife or girlfriend or mother or sister asks you if she is looking fat, and you say, ‘no sweety, not at all’. Honesty might be bitter, but it’s liberating.
Yes, we said it, humour goes a long way in making you an interesting person to spend time with. Some spice, some fun, some drama, these are some of the ingredients that make life worthwhile. The world is a grinding machine, it is easy to lose yourself in the demands and challenges. Your better half or family members should be able to lighten it up for you just like you lighten it up for them. Some small games, a few trips, fun activities, a hobby class together, where there is a will, there is a way.
Any relationship that does not allow you to be yourself, is a waste of time and energy. One’s uniqueness and your partner’s acknowledgement of it is crucial to any healthy relationship. We may land up in a particular job because of our characteristics, but if we have to keep our individuality at bay, then we shall hardly ever be able to give our best at what we do. Similarly, in a relationship, if we find ourselves succumbing to the demands of the relationship and loosing the individual persona, what good is it?
This point reminds me of the song, ‘Lean On’ because we all need somebody to lean on. Man is a social animal and he needs support from others to thrive and if this is missing in any relationship, the whole point if defeated. An employee needs support to grow from his company, a child needs support from his/her parents and one lover needs support of the other. It is as simple as it can be.
We hope you find all these answers in your relationships.